Kicking off 2012 with Change

by Jennifer Fugo on January 3, 2012

Now’s the time to make some changes…since the western world believes that the Mayans have predicted the end of the world on 12/21/12. So you’ve got less than a year to live the way YOU want to live, right?

Well, maybe or maybe not. Whether you believe in the Mayan prophesy or not (I personally traveled to Belize and spoke to many Mayan experts about this.), the single most important question I have for you is this:

What’s really stopping you?

Or maybe it’s:

What have you got to lose?

And I’d love to counter with:

You’re gonna have to get uncomfortable here and take some steps that you’ve been TOO lazy to do. Oh, and you’re going to have to start ignoring those lovely excuses that float around your mind. You know them…they entice you to eat out, microwave some rather disgusting tray of pre-made food or gorge yourself on a box of ___________ (you can fill in the blank with whatever is true for you…maybe cookies, twizzlers, etc).

I’m being tough right now, but I think you can handle it.  Actually, I know you need it.  You aren’t coming here to feel good about the crappy food that sneaks into your diet or being too lazy to make it to your favorite fitness class.  You come back because on some level, you want to change.  The problem is that most of us are hardwired to avoid the discomfort that comes hand-in-hand with making changes.

You have to start unplugging them one-by-one.

Let me say this again in a more direct and personal way — you are hardwired to avoid the discomfort to make changes.  Just like your house, the circuitry is built within your mind over the years that create systematic patterns that FEEL so hard to alter.  When feeling challenged on something, many people employ a classic STUCK technique by saying “Well, that’s the way I am.”

WRONG! That’s an excuse.  Even I catch myself saying that periodically and know it’s the biggest tip-off that I’ve GOT to work on that one area or issue.  No one is just stuck for eternity unless they believe that they are.  Holding patterns are just that – a pattern of which only you can choose to change when you’re ready.

Guess what else holding patterns are — comfortable, easy, convenient, familiar and relatively boring.  Though holding patterns might fit nicely into your life, they’re slowly suffocating your creative passion for life.  Holding patterns are your best frenemies…you know an enemy pretending to be your friend??

Bottom line – 2012 is about you living the life you dream about and wish for.  It’s why you come to my classes and try out recipes I give you.  But it’s not about perfection.  Nope!  Just focus on picking ONE thing, one wire, one holding pattern to change.  Get used to being uncomfortable and slowly revel in your triumph as that discomfort dissolves.  And if you happen to need a bit of help, you know how to reach me.

Wishing you well in 2012 as you start re-wiring your life, one plug at a time!

XO – 

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Laura Pappas January 3, 2012 at 12:38 pm

Jen, great perspective here! I love the concept of “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable” this is something that Crossfit has taught me and that as I started applying to my everyday life I noticed REAL and POSITIVE change. Taking a step to commit to my health, do a detox challenge, sign up to complete a half ironman, and even decide about a career move are things that are uncomfortable, but I’ve found that by putting myself in those situations, I learn a lot about who I am and what is important to me. I love your call to action, break up with your old and comfortable ways and try something new and get uncomfortable!

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Marian January 12, 2012 at 10:19 am

So true! Change is uncomfortable but so necessary in life to grow:) One step at a time<3

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Julie Stiles January 26, 2012 at 2:43 pm

Jennifer,
Nice article! I so agree about how hardwired we are to avoid discomfort. I think it’s one of the tragedies of being human how it takes us to be in real pain (and often intense pain) before we seem to be willing to overcome the discomfort of change. And I think it’s important to realize that those holding patterns are in place for a good reason; we have something we are committed to that holds them in place. When we get what that is (ie why we do what we do that is counter to what we say we want), and can see our beliefs that drive that underlying commitment, it makes it much easier to begin to challenge the whole structure. I am in the middle of this in so many areas….

Nice to find your site, Margie King sent me your way, I’m a fellow (though later than you) IIN grad. I’m gluten-free (as well as many-other-things-free), so I’m interested to see what all you are offering! Margie thought I should check you out because of the interviews you were (are?) doing, as I’m thinking of a similar model.

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